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From a Chinese metaphysical perspective (Bazi/Four Pillars of Destiny), repeatedly attracting incompatible partners could relate to several key factors in your astrological profile. Let me explain the principles and potential remedies:

1. Clash in the Spouse Palace (日支)

Your "Spouse Palace" is located in the Day Branch of your Bazi chart. If this position is:

• Clashed by other pillars (e.g., your Day Branch is 申 Monkey but Year/Month Pillar contains 寅 Tiger)
• Controlled by destructive elements (e.g., Day Branch 午 Fire suppressed by 子 Water) This creates instability, attracting partners who either can't commit, have conflicting values, or bring emotional turbulence.

Example:
A 丙午 (Yang Fire Horse) Day Pillar might clash with a 壬子 (Yang Water Rat) Year Pillar. The Water-Fire conflict could manifest as partners who either emotionally drain you (Water extinguishing Fire) or create explosive arguments (Fire evaporating Water).

2. Weak/Controlled Spouse Star

Your "Spouse Star" is determined by your gender and Day Master:

• Men: Wealth Star (财) represents partners
• Women: Officer Star (官) represents partners

If this star is:

• Overwhelmed by Controlling Elements (e.g., your Officer Star is Wood but Metal elements are dominant)
• "Robbed" by Competitor Stars (比劫)
• Hidden/Unclear in the chart
  This suggests difficulty recognizing suitable partners or attracting those who take more than they give.

Example:
A 甲 Wood Day Master (male) with excessive 乙 Wood (Competitor Stars) in his chart might unconsciously attract partners who prioritize friends/money over the relationship (Wood over-consuming Earth/Wealth Star).

3. Current Luck Pillar Influence

Your 2025运势 (Year 2025 is 乙巳 Yin Wood Snake) interacts with your chart:

• Snake (巳) clashes with Pig (亥) - If your chart has Pig, 2025 may bring abrupt relationship endings
• Wood feeds Fire - If Fire is your Competitor Star, you might attract rivals in love
• Snake forms a "Hidden Combination" with Monkey (申) - Existing relationship tensions could resurface

4. Special Stars & Patterns

Look for these in your chart:

• 孤辰寡宿 (Loneliness Stars): Partners may be emotionally distant
• 阴差阳错 (Yin-Yang Mistiming): Missed opportunities with good matches
• 桃花 (Peach Blossom) in conflicting positions: Attract charming but unstable partners

Example:
Someone with Peach Blossom in 卯 (Rabbit) but having 酉 (Rooster) in their chart creates a "Peach Blossom Clash" - magnetic attraction initially, but frequent breakups.

5. Elemental Imbalance

• Water deficiency: Poor emotional discernment
• Excessive Fire: Rush into relationships impulsively
• Earth over Wood: Attract controlling partners

Practical Solutions

1. Enhance Spouse Palace
   If your Day Branch is 酉 (Rooster), wear Earth-element jewelry (to strengthen Metal's "root") and avoid red clothing (Fire melts Metal).

2. 2025 Adjustment
   For Wood Snake year, place a ceramic jar (Earth element) in the Southwest (relationship sector) to stabilize Peach Blossom energy.

3. Timing
   If your chart shows strong 正官 (Proper Officer) in 2026 (Fire Horse year), delay serious commitments until then.

4. Behavioral Cures
   If your Competitor Stars (比劫) are strong, avoid group dating scenarios. Opt for 1-on-1 meetings during 5-7 PM (Metal hour) to suppress Wood energy.

Without your full birth chart, these are general guidelines. The root cause could be a combination of 2-3 factors above. Many clients see 30-50% improvement in partner selection within 2 years after making targeted adjustments to their element flow and spatial energy.